Every January people talk about resolutions. This year, how about looking deeper at what could really make a difference in your outlook on life? Consider your need to forgive.

Forgiveness is not looking the other way, it’s not forgetting, it’s not even the same as making up.　 Forgiveness is the conscious choice to let go of resentment.　 Sounds good, right?　 So why don’t we do it all the time?　 Like a drug, wallowing in resentment can feel good in the short-term.　 We can be “right,” and make the other person “wrong.”　 We feel we deserve sympathy for our predicament.　 We get a sense of power and control.　 We don’t have to assume responsibility.

The cost of holding on to resentment is high. 　The bitterness and distance it creates can be palpable.　 Walking on eggshells is no fun for sure, but there is a greater cost.　 If we allow our relationships…